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By (author) Kati Morton
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A helpful guide to understanding why people-pleasing, perfectionism and control can become detrimental to our lives and what to do about it.
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”A powerful guide to breaking free from the exhausting cycle of control and stepping into a life built on trust, resilience, and self-acceptance” JAY SHETTY
”This book made me stop and look at the ways I”ve tried to keep myself safe that are no longer serving me. Kati doesn”t shame us for our coping – she helps us understand it” JONATHAN VAN NESS
Many of us were told to stuff our feelings down when we were younger. We were taught that that our emotional reactions and responses should be controlled so we didn”t embarrass or upset our parents and those around us. However, if that control oozes over into our relationships it”s considered a bad thing. Controlling our friends or romantic partners is seen as toxic. Control is a precarious thing. So, what are we supposed to do?
In Why Do I Keep Doing This? licensed family and marriage therapist, Kati Morton, explores this common struggle with control. Kati shows how our upbringing and anxiety are often connected to our struggle to take up space. We can feel like we are too much by just existing in the same place as someone else, or that we are less deserving of their time and care. This struggle with asserting ourselves or taking what we require can harm our development. We sometimes think the only way to feel okay and get what we need is to please everyone else first. Why Do I Keep Doing This? is a vital tool in helping us understand why control can be so attractive, but if left unmonitored can become detrimental to our lives.
Kati will shed light on shared struggles as readers follow her through some key points of growth in her own life while incorporating what she has learned as a therapist and content creator who knows how to create lasting healthy change. This book gives readers the ability to not only ask themselves why do I keep doing this? but also have the insight to find a real answer.
Review quote:
This book made me stop and look at the ways I”ve tried to keep myself safe that are no longer serving me. Kati doesn”t shame us for our coping – she helps us understand it. That alone is healing.
Review quote:
A powerful guide to breaking free from the exhausting cycle of control and stepping into a life built on trust, resilience, and self-acceptance.
Biographical note:
Kati Morton is widely recognised as a leading mental health advocate and educator. She holds a masters in clinical psychology and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She has a passion for education and empowerment and shares helpful insights through her YouTube channel. Kati is the author of two books, Are You Ok? and Traumatized. She hopes that by speaking candidly about mental health, and encouraging her viewers to reach out to get the support they need, we can remove the stigma associated with getting help.
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”This book made me stop and look at the ways I”ve tried to keep myself safe that are no longer serving me. Kati doesn”t shame us for our coping – she helps us understand it” JONATHAN VAN NESS
Many of us have been told since childhood that we need to keep it together, be less dramatic or toughen up. As we got older, our upsets can be dismissed, labelled as overreactions or even seen as embarrassing. These toxic ideas teach us to stuff our feelings down, ignore our instincts and worry more about how we”re perceived than how we actually feel.
For licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton, it wasn”t until she was on the verge of burnout that she recognized the pattern. Like so many of us, Kati was trapped in an endless cycle
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